Ancilla L

A Little Housekeeping!

Attention all my patrons!

First of all, I know there were a lot of posts uploaded today, I was just taking care of the backlog, but I have good news for everyone, I have made some changes to the design and accessibility features of my page which should make all of it a lot easier to navigat...

The Things They Forget.

We sit together on the balcony of our new home in the mountains, he fiddles with the gardening tools I recently purchased, checking to see if he can use them for anything but their intended purpose, as he tells me about the kids in the neighbourhood. After he regales me with the story of Viv, a v...

Class Upload: Fear Play

Hello everyone, this is the upload of the class on fear-play that was conducted on 7 September 2025. Please find attached and available for download:

• Recording of the class

• Notes for the class

• Powerpoint presentation used to teach the class.

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Upcoming Class Joining Information: Fear Play

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This is the information to join the class on Fear-Play tomorrow. The time listed below is in IST (and your local time will be reflected on this event page.

Three Monsoons.

It is only as I cut my lip against his toenail that I gain some awareness of my surroundings. I am not certain how much time has passed since I begged to get down at his feet and worship them with my mouth but however many hours or seconds it has been, it feels like they have gone by in a frenzie...

Performance and Performative.

A long time ago, my spouse and I played with someone as a couple. Usually, I only do threeway-play if it in involves cuckolding (me) but she was fun, cute and casual and I was curious so we went for it. Prior to the play, she said that she had very low tolerance for pain and even though she did w...

The Sound of His Boots.

I was waiting for him in an empty office while he was off in another part of the hospital, perhaps he was seeing a patient or doing whatever people who work in hospitals do on a daily basis. I can only assume it involves doing crafts with bandages, playing diagnostic guessing games based on the h...

Sharing My Cats, Sharing My Heart.

“Don’t forget that today is my cats-night,” he says to me as he grabs his plate off the counter and promptly drops his spoon.

I shake my head and bring him another as he cleans the chunks of quinoa and lettuce off the floor. A decade ago, a friend of mine who had been a father for man...

Kink As Battleground.

Every single time I write something that is a bit explicit in terms of my fondness for violence, consensual nonconsent or anything that falls into the edgier category, especially within the confines of my relationship with a cis het man, I get a particular type of commenter (or messages). This pe...

Appreciation.

Sara fusses with the cone around Junie's head as she reminds her precious little doggy not to exert herself so soon after surgery. Sara grew up to be so beautiful, it's almost unbelievable she has the features she does, and they coexist with her simplicity in the most striking way. She reminds me...

Upcoming Q&A on Sadomasochism

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This is the link to join the upcoming Q&A on Sadomasochism scheduled for 24 August 2025. I will post it again (two days prior to the event). This event, unlike my other classes, is open to all subscription levels of my Patreon. If you wish to reserve a spot, plea...

What Can You Teach Your Son?

I still remember the first real discussion about gender I had with my stepson. He was eight-years old, and while he had only lived with me for a year or so, we had developed a highly-communcative, primarily parental relationship with one another. We had just come home from a fair where he had met...

Mothers and Daughters and Women.

The three of us were sitting on the floor in the middle of my mother’s bedroom. The room has gone through significant transitions in terms of design and colour scheme, but through the years we have continued to huddle together in the same spot—the patch of flooring between the seating area an...

Class Upload: ESM Expanded

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Class recording.
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Upcoming Class Joining Information: ESM

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This is the joining information for the class on emotional sadomasochism that is taking place on 3 August 2025. If you have registered by sharing your details with me, I have already added you to the class meeting, but if you haven't, please feel free to use this link to jo...

Counter-Parenting and How It Hurts Everyone

A few years ago, when we were moving from a small town to a small city, we began the routine scramble of looking for a new school for the kid and a strange back-and-forth began between my partner and his former wife (because they are legally obligated to discuss new schools but not to agree on th...

The Unexpected Trauma Of Casual Sex

We were sitting in a dark corner of a bar when he brought up his friend Rohit. We’d met through Rohit whom I had hooked up with on a slow Saturday afternoon but I didn’t know either one of them well so I just offered a few empty words of familiarity about him to move the conversation along. 2025-07-23 05:15:32 +0000 UTC View Post

Babygirl, Social Power Structures and Kink Representation.

After ignoring its existence for a while, I finally watched the film Babygirl and of course, I didn’t expect to like it (and I really didn’t) but it doesn’t matter because this isn’t about the film. When it began, I found myself remarking in jest about how it’s always CEOs, bosses and p...

Why I Teach Despite Saying I Would Never.

If you have known me for any consequential period of time, you may know that one of the most consistent themes of my life is that I will always have to eat my words. If ever, I deign to take too staunch a stance, I am destined to get to the point where I embrace the opposite of that stance (altho...

A Little Information For My Patrons!

Hello everyone!

I just want to start off by telling you all how much I appreciate the support of my community here and I hope this membership is as gratifying for you. I wanted to let everyone know that next month I am conducting a Q&A on Sadomasochism (with my partner) that is open to ...

Class Upload: Comprehensive Risk Assessment

This is the upload of the recorded version of the class on Comprehensive Risk Assessment. Please find:

• Recording of me teaching the class.

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• The PPT used to teach the class.

Upcoming Class Joining Information: Risk Assessment

Hello! This is the information for joining the upcoming class on Comprehensive Risk Assessment. The time listed below is in IST, your local-time will be reflected in the event page on Fetlife.

Comprehensive Risk Assessment With Ancilla

Sunday, Jul 13 • 10:00 – 12:00<...

Do You Even Like Me?

At the last parents-forum I attended at the school of my child, I thought I had made a new friend. The school has a new principal and as we interacted through the course of the forum, I found I liked her. She is no-nonsense, sounds invested in the students and at least, seemed to be open to feedb...

There Are No Magical Solutions To Your Kink Problems.

I have known Sharda for many years and while I wouldn’t say that we are friends, she does frequently confide in me about her troubles. Sharda is in a power-exchange relationship with a dominant person, and within this space she enjoys being cuckolded, emotionally tortured and physically ...

Class Upload: The Intersection of Trauma and Fetishism

This is the upload of the class on the Intersection of Trauma and Fetishism that was conducted today. Please find attached:

• The recording of the class.

• The powerpoint presentation used to teach.

• The reading notes for the class.

If you ...

Upcoming Class Joining Information: 29 June 2025

This is the information you need to join and/or access the upcoming class on The Intersection of Trauma and Fetishism on 29 June 2025 (or 28 June 2025, depending on where you are located). The time and date listed below are in IST (Indian Standard Time), you can access the local time via this 2025-06-27 05:56:34 +0000 UTC View Post

Power Exchange Textbook: Chapter 7

Note: This is the seventh chapter in the Power Exchange Sextbook I am currently writing. The previously posted chapters can be accessed at this tag. This book is currently onl...

A Detailed Evaluation of The Concept of Personal Responsibility.

Every single time anyone writes or talks about having their consent violated, being assaulted or abused, there are inevitably, (often by the same people), calls for personal responsibility. I think, perhaps, it is worthwhile to deconstruct the concept so we can jointly gain some clarity on it. I ...

Random Writing Lessons #2

Catharsis is a common motivation for writing. As a writer, you can experience cathartic emotion and release through your process as well as your characters but your catharsis is often covert and secondary. In structuring writing, especially when it is goal-oriented, it is important to centre the ...

Class Upload: Conflict Resolution in Power-Exchange

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