The video that got demonetized, confirmed by manual review. All about the sexual debt felt by most men

Very well put, Hristo.

Margaret

As my mom always said to me when I complained about something, “The grass is always greener on the other side.” I definitely think you hit it on the nail here. The overarching goal should be to understand each other’s issues to grow together. Both sides have issues worth addressing. My ma grew up as a single mom at 19. She wasn’t promiscuous in the slightest but, just wasn’t responsible with birth control when she needed to be. Her aspirations of being an actress dissipated with being responsible for a kid and, not to mention, I gave her some nasty ass scars being a 10 pound, C Section baby. A ‘happy accident’ she calls me, haha. My dad and her eventually split and she found my stepdad. But she went through some trouble to get there. It was hard for her, and I’m glad she was able to find her way out. I think one thing that gets lost is that we don’t do a good enough job understanding the other side of the coin. I was only able to understand it by hearing what my mom went through. Ultimately, I think if we do a better job communicating, everyone will find that we agree on more things than most.

Kyle Worden

I didn't say that sarcastically. I genuinely believe that the genders are imbalanced, but in different ways... which creates a type of balance. Or rather... there is a point in dating/relationships where the male/female power dynamic IS balanced. Depending on the point on the arc of a relationship developing, one has an advantage over the other. I would say, from my own observations, men and women have an equally difficult time getting their needs met. Young men deal with rejection constantly, especially because women expect them to show initiative and take the risks to even BEGIN the whole courtship and mating dance. So men rightly feel that they start off in debt... fighting an uphill battle to satisfy their biological imperative - to mate... and to mate frequently with as many females as possible. Fast forward several years and you see single moms, criticized by both men and women for poor judgement, irresponsibility, not having high enough standards, trading sex for a promise of security and safety that didn't ever materialize. So what if she wasn't promiscuous? So what if she was loyal and worked hard for her family? What if, despite diligence and hard work, the relationship fails and she is now the primary caregiver for minor children? That woman has very few prospects for starting a new, strong, rewarding relationship with another man, because her time, energy and resources are already spoken for. Now she has a huge debt that might never be paid... she started out with the potential to gain security for herself and her offspring (the female biological equivalent to male sexual conquest) and has very low chances of getting that need met. As a society, I think things break down when we fail to recognize and legitimize one another's needs. It irks me to no end when women criticize men for 'only being after sex'. First of all, that's bullshit and not true. Secondly, it blames men for having a reproductive drive that is HARDWIRED into them for the good of humanity. Criticizing that is idiotic. But it also drives me crazy when men demonize women for judging a man's potential value as a partner by his demonstrated ability to provide. That is her survival instinct. She has to look at where she will be 10, 15, 20 years from today if she sleeps with him. It's not immoral, selfish, shallow or cruel. It just is. Somewhere between initial attraction and that point when two middle-aged people are sending their grown offspring out into the world, the genders are balanced in their power and responsibility. HOW individuals learn to find that place and build it into something solid and lasting for both of their health, happiness and benefit... that's what I'm most interested in discovering.

Margaret

Please enlighten us.

Sure... if you're only viewing things from the male perspective. Now, what kind of 'debts' (unmet needs or desires) do you think women enter the dating scene with?

Margaret

When young women come of dating age, they automatically win the lottery and become.millionaires. Instead of saving this lottery win and invest it in one man, they squander it on the cock carousel. By the time they are 30, and their SMV is low, they want to settle down, cause their millions were spent experimenting, sleeping with bad boys etc... Men on the other hand are as you say dealt a debt that they carry and they have to build themselves up to acrue influence and resources. Only IF they are smart and redpilled can they capitalize on it. And only then will they become desireable.