Ignorance: The Cause of so Much Male Anxiety
Added 2019-10-16 06:50:49 +0000 UTC
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Hell yes Alexander. Beautiful stuff. Good on ya. I agree with you. I move through life with more peace and confidence as a result of the knowledge I’ve gained about how people are. Blasting away my ignorance about evolutionary biology and male-female dynamics has really improved my life.
Blair
2019-10-16 17:09:24 +0000 UTCThere is a difference between acquiring knowledge about something or yourself and learning about yourself. Learning about yourself is always in the present. The way I have dealt with anxiety is completely disregarding the past and observing what is taking place right now. If you observe and utilise you will not go round. You will do the right things and you won't even do it. The following example happened a while a go. I provide the analysis in retrospect because I was not aware of what exactly was I doing. So in a coffee shop, on the way out, I notice one girl drawing painting. I liked it and I found her charming as well. However, she was sitting with two other women, both on her left. It was a large round table in Costa coffee. I slowly approach pulled a chair and sat down. I do this very slowly I wanted to give them time but also myself(wasn't thinking then). As soon as sat down I locked my eyes on the woman sitting in the middle. She was actually central to the other two(the leader). So I shook her hand said some thing while not taking my eyes off her. Tune slowly I moved to other woman. I talked to her as well, just briefly. All thoughout time not looking at the woman I approached the table for. Once I introduced myself the her friends I turned all my attention and body towards her. Needles to say she was so surprised. I complemented her on the world she has done. It was very impressive work. Everything I talked about was a truism and could not be denied by her. She gave her details in the end. I think this worked because I had gotten approved by her friends earlier on. But whatever the reasons. Another story. I'll make it short. So I try to talk to a woman in the gym right. I open my mouth and before I even said a word she jestured with her hand 🖐️ (don't talk to me) and then she turned the other way. How rude! But that's okay. It was easy to figure out that a pretty woman like that would say no to many men. So I decided to guilt trip her into coming to me on her own. My plan was stupendously simple. Each time you see her in the gym make sure she walks past you as if accidently and give her your most charming smile. So I did. And that woman looked so so confused when I started doing that. He face didn't know what I was doing. Why was I not offended, she thinks. That was my plan. So one day I'm stretching(doing it wrong) and there she comes and corrents posture. Another time she crossed the road at night to come and ask me whether she can lite her candle 🕯 using mine. Orthodox Christian thing. Whatever I've done has not gone wrong in years. Not even one time. Fuck confidence. I trust myself.
Hristo
2019-10-16 08:10:23 +0000 UTC
