I was in a same situation. Helping her, engage her after 2 years, but one year later we ended it. After this situation I started to be interested about this topic and found Alexander videos which helped me to understand the past and let it go. Thanks Alexander!
2019-08-19 17:04:06 +0000 UTC
100% !
2019-08-19 04:11:09 +0000 UTC
I've been mentally abused by a woman before and this one damaged idiot still talks to me because she thinks I'm going to fall for her shit again....NOPE. So long story short, I went to Michigan to go meet this chick and bro, I got catfished plus even was manipulated by giving her money which was mad sketchy. Obviously I wasn't entirely aware of female nature because I was brainwashed by the soul mate myth. I got out of it by mediating daily and figured just fuck with this hoe by not giving her attention and destroying her mind games. A guy who's been played is mainly a character who is possessed by the "Addict Lover" which is a very common pattern in the states. I had to reach my Inner warrior and cut this fucking plague or anything that doesn't serve my purpose. Bro, the Self is literally telling you to STOP associating or trying to save these succubus. A man needs to save himself......DONE!
2019-08-19 00:28:12 +0000 UTC
Wow! He is so fixated on her. She is to emotionally all over the place. She needs to come together for herself. He cannot now jump on the relationship train here. You cannot take advantage of her at that point. You mentioned that men want to fix women. I think its partly has to do with "nice guy" side. And in turn women also want to fix guys.
2019-08-18 09:16:50 +0000 UTC
An approach to the problem that should have been discussed IMHO : yes you are a nice guy, yes you want her to get better. But if she does not put in the effort (at least as much efforts as you put in her) you will never save her and she will only drag you down with her. There are a lot of people that are broken (men and women) and you cannot save them all...
2019-08-18 08:47:55 +0000 UTC
I know what that's like. Dealt with a similar experience minus the age difference. Dude definitely needs to move on. But it may be difficult for him to justify it until she does something truly horrific that would give him clear justification for moving on.
2019-08-18 06:44:31 +0000 UTC
This guy should just move on. He's straight up friend zoned. He's captain save a hoe...
