What attracts women? Catering to their tastes of being independent? PATREON EXCLUSIVE
Added 2020-03-13 08:02:22 +0000 UTC
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If you can't offer a woman a top tier genetic code, she won't want to even give you the time of day.
Wild_Card
2020-03-19 07:52:41 +0000 UTCIf you can't offer a woman a top tier genetic code, she won't want to even give you the time of day.
Wild_Card
2020-03-19 07:52:31 +0000 UTCI think I like the format of your Patreon-only videos more than the public ones.
Ryan Stallard
2020-03-15 08:32:53 +0000 UTCHow old are you Norbert ? Btw, I would be glad to discuss this topic furthermore with you, If you want I created a channel on telegram for men interested in this topic to discuss with on Telegram app : https://t.me/joinchat/J33zXVROg_xWH2JaYLBxNg You can join by following this link.
Hugo Matiz
2020-03-15 00:22:50 +0000 UTCThere needs to be places in your life where the Venn diagram of your pursuits intersect with other people including women. For me, that probably ends up being at the gym or traveling to and from the exchange to get to work. But having those intersections still doesn't guarantee results. I'm older and have gone to the gym lifted and run hard since I was 15 or 16, there are very few fit, age appropriate women. Fitness doesn't seem to be a thing with most women. The one woman I do know who qualifies in the "half your age plus seven" rule is living with a guy who is 10 years younger than she is. I know her well she's wonderful and super fit. I don't seem to have enough to offer even average women. I am 5' 11" 180 lbs, average looking, I have no debt, six figures saved and make six figures a year. There is nothing dangerous or passion invoking about me. I've proven to be no woman's "dreamboat." It is what it is. For me I think it comes down to not being able to envision how jumping through all the hoops required, ends up being worth it. Alexander talks frequently about how having a high quality woman improves your life, but if guys don't have a leg up in the looks department they don't get a chance to ever experience it. Those women have every right to try and do the best for themselves. She wants a high quality guy, but she wants everything else too. Can't fault them for that. A Canadian psychologist I follow was writing about how on dating websites the best looking 10% of guys get 58% of the "attention" from women. They report frequent one night stands and casual sex with women from those online dating sites. (Not my thing) But his point was that the more provisioning a guy has to offer before a woman will have sex with him is just a testament to how attractive she finds that guy. Some guys CAN'T offer enough provisioning to most women to EVER get there. It's not that men aren't willing to offer that provisioning, it's just that we see that top 10% not have to offer ANY provisioning or display ANY resource sharing to be rewarded an audience and chance at a relationship or girlfriend. A woman who wants kids and a family can make herself eat broccoli (be with a responsible high character guy who she isn't really attracted to) for awhile, but if you had to provide a lot of provisioning to earn that spot with her, eventually she will take it for granted, won't value it enough anymore, and will try and find it from a guy she is actually attracted to. At this stage of my life, seeing most of the guys I know from school divorced, broke and struggling with alimony and child support, I kind of feel like I dodged a bullet in never being able to tick enough boxes or be desired by women I chased after. I was one of those guys who literally couldn't offer enough to matter. There was no internet or online help available until the late 1990's. Psychology Today didn't exist and there were no pages or blogs like Alexander's to help guys like me who needed it back then. I've gained a measure of understanding now that I can read sites like this and can understand why I had the wrong make up, wrong parenting and home life and many of the reasons it didn't work out for me. I've found a good measure of peace with it.
Norbert
2020-03-14 20:09:08 +0000 UTCI like your replies Norbert. So, my question was about the tension between doing what you really like, what embodies you, and at the same time appealing to women who have criteria in terms of social status for example or just simply being exposed to them. Because sometimes you can be very successful in your domain, but because what you do isn't social by nature, you don't get to meet any women and remain invisible. Not even talking of doing something that isn't valued socially (in this case the dilemma is real : should you keep doing what you want to do or do something else to increase your chances). So I think it's like you say, you have to do something appealing to you and if it means you won't have exposure to women, then you have to change your playing field for dating and try to go to social places or do things where women are represented. It's really not easy at all in some cases like yours or mine, when you don't get to meet people through your work, your island is pretty much invisible and you can spend weeks or months without being even able to have any quality woman in sight, not even talking of attracting one.
Hugo Matiz
2020-03-13 19:59:47 +0000 UTCThe first concept was covered by Lao Tzu in the Tao Te Ching: "Bend and be straight, yield and overcome." But along with that is you need to live a life that a woman wants to be a part of. When I quit trying, I gravitated back to my interests. Looking for gold nuggets in the desert with my metal detector, hunting, fishing, mechanics, and trading markets. And because my interest really are solitary interests not social interests, I did not have a great woman or any woman for that matter, magically appear when I quit trying. It's a numbers game. Your interests need to to be mainstream. They need to be interests that women share likely more social interests, or "Bend and be straight" isn't going to magically work. It turns out for me that it worked out best for me. As an introvert, I was doing the things I really wanted to do and in trying do date and be involved with a woman I was actually a hexagonal peg trying to fit myself into a square or round hole Point two: Frequently people see each other and tell themselves a story and concoct a persona of how they see that person that may be miles from the truth about who they are, so that when they actually meet, date whatever, Who that person turns out to REALLY be is so far from the fantasy we told ourselves about them, that we end up being disappointed. Both men and women do this. When I was younger I remember seeing incredibly hot women and envision how great it would be to have a girlfriend like her only to find out she's an incredibly unstable bi-polar witch. Point 3: Is that most guys are NEVER going to have that kind of abundance. They aren't going to be able to get enough reps to become proficient. Only the top tier super hot guys, are able to get the kind of practice all guys really need to deal from a position of strength. If you took statistics you'll understand what I mean when I say the R² between looks and reps/opportunity to learn and become proficient is probably .75 or higher.
Norbert
2020-03-13 14:04:54 +0000 UTC
