Can You Date A Woman Who Is Superior To You In Some Way? PATREON EXCLUSIVE

I have this problem from the female side. What I do is seek out men who are superior to me in other fields that I find interesting. But the men must be at least my intellectual match in my eyes. I’ve tried ‘dating down’ intellectually & it's not doable. I can’t respect him enough. I am most hypergamous in this area. I also submit/step back in other areas; I cook, clean, sew etc & always have the man drive if we’re together. Submission in the bedroom too. Initiating conversation on topics where he can show off & impress me has been helping too.

RhodiumMaiden

Thanks for clarifying! This helps direct our efforts so that we could be in the same field but different sub-fields!

Ashwin Srinivas

Ashwin,  that's a great question!  Yes, a guy being excellent on a different instrument would absolutely do it for me. So I think I should've said 'non-violinist' instead of 'non-musician'. The rival aspect of dating a fellow violinist would still be there our whole relationship.  Every time a choice position opens up, we'd both audition,  and spouses should never have to compete with each other for a job.

Jennifer Coopman

hey Jennifer, I was casually browsing through some old videos of AG's and stumbled across your comment on this one. It's obvious that a male violinist needs to be at the top of his game to impress you as a female violinist but what if the guy was a flutist instead? He's still a musician too but plays an an entire different instrument really well that you possibly can't. Would that still have appealed to your hypergamy?

Ashwin Srinivas

Why does the screen vibrate every so often? It's distracting.

Patron

alex has a crush on ayn rand

Ok I know this is an older post but I'm new to his patreon and just seeing it for the first time. I disagree with Alexander on this one. At the beginning when he was reading the email and asking the question I was talking, then yelling, at my screen 'NO! Don't do it!' Hahaha! I am also a violinist and if she is that much better than him at it it means she dedicated and ambitious. Which is what HE should be! Alexander suggested at the end that the man should get better at lots of different things. But that would hinder his violin practicing and he won't ever be as good as her. This is why i never considered the other male violinists at my school dating material. They were my competition! And if she is as ambitious as she should be, it will ALWAYS be a competition. He should forget about this girl, practice his ass off so he can beat her, which at the same time will assist his career. THAT will make him a high value guy, and non-musical women will be attracted to him. That's what happened to me anyway. When non-mysical men found out I played the violin, and played it well, it impressed the shit out of them. And for at least one guy, maybe others, it was one of the things that made them attracted to me. i think the confidence and accomplishment that will be on display when he dedicates himself to his own career is what will make him more attractive to women and feel better about himself. I dont feel that trying to get better at other things just to satisfy his rival's hypergamy will do that.

Jennifer Coopman

I found the anedote on Ayn Rand really interesting, thanks!

I'm a 29 year old male and currently friends with a woman who is 35 (she looks younger than that, though). She is the same height as me at 5'9" (175cm), but has a wider frame than my skinny self. She has a really great personality and is very bright and intelligent (more so than I am). Given her abundant social life with other people in the activities she is involved in and her substantial progress in accomplishing her personal goals, I often wonder why she will accept invitations to hang out with me in particular.

ActOnInstinct

Definitely, thats much more typical

Alexander Grace

Alex, I am really am not interested in being with a woman like this. Do you think a man could have a women who is very attractive and younger than him instead of being better in some kind of skill or smartness?

Max

woman have these days even lost values in themselves that they run just after money and it is more than 80 percent.

mack-mc

Thank you for the honest answer, Alexander! I had a similar experience while being in high school. Smart girls went for arrogant geniuses, sports girl dating best sportspeople. In my personal experience, I was in a swimming and rowing club at my university. Even though my uni has for 100 girls, 170 guys ratio, the sports clubs were 50/50. I saw that even though, I was neither gifted at sports nor terrible, I always found the more sporty ones to be more attractive. I never stood a chance tho because they were preoccupied admiring the elite guys in the clubs (that happened also to regular girls as well that were physically weaker at those sports than me).

Krzysztof Baran

whats makes high quality man is money and money alone nothing els a woman sees it,it does not matter if you have top of the quality skills of all kind it is down to money and that's it end of .i have experienced it all my life .value is wealth not knowlege or skills .

mack-mc