Alexander talks about maintaining the masculine frame in many of his videos. At the core of it, masculinity embodies order, rationality, control, purpose. Feminine energy is more chaotic, emotional, passionate and nurturing. Check out the "men are islands, women are boats" video.
Margaret
2020-03-29 13:46:57 +0000 UTC
Thanks for the advice guys. I really appreciate you taking the time to reply. I too would like you elaborate on what you meant by frame collapsing Kurt. I can hazard a guess about her losing attraction/respect for me at some stage but I wouldn't be fully sure if that is what you meant :)
2020-03-28 01:09:59 +0000 UTC
Hey kurt can you elaborate what you mean by frame ?
2020-03-27 22:02:53 +0000 UTC
Your instincts are telling you a truth your heart doesn't want to hear.
Margaret
2020-03-26 19:08:52 +0000 UTC
What if you don't know for sure but suspect something is going on? I'm in a secret LDR of 5 months. She doesn't want to make it public. I know that's a red flag in itself. She's suddenly not as interested and is messaging a new shared friend constantly. He's obviously interested and doesn't know she's dating me. He's recently out of a 10 year relationship/marriage. The reason I'm suspicious is of course the messaging is happening but I'd not have thought anything was actually happening until they both were away at the same time for the second time. The first time was while I was doing exams and he was vague about where he was. She said she was with her mum and went to a certain place but didn't tell me about her day. (Yes I'm going a bit loopy). The second time was during his birthday. He said he was going to do something much nicer this year given he had a tragedy last year. Didn't elaborate and avoid being specific. She was staying at a friend's and that is literally all she said. They both went dark on WhatdsApp at the same time and then I got messages from both at the same time 4ish hours later. And they were both generally unavailable for the next 2 days. It mirrors the first time I met her. When I asked him after about his trip he said "It was nice :) Now back to reality". I don't know anything for sure but obviously something is wrong. With me of course and with our relationship. There's more details but this is already as crazy as I'm willing to look to other people. What do I do in this situation?
