PATREON EXCLUSIVE: Polygamy

The point about low quality people in polygamous arrangement is very true in my experience. I know a few palyamoueous constellations and although they're all lovely people, they all got some serious problems...

rumlyne

I've never heard this theory before. Sounds interesting. Could you point me in the direction of some resources for further reading?

Alexander Grace

Something that I think a lot of people don't consider is the area of differentiated sociobiology. Specifically, that there are inherent differences between peoples for evolutionary reasons - and mating patterns are no exception. In cold northern Europe, the selective pressures of the environment didn't allow for multiple wives. Even if a man was an extremely efficient hunter, he couldn't possibly get enough to feed multiple wives and a large amount of children - thus the traditional Northwestern European model of the nuclear family. While it is true that the Germanics and the neolithic farmers who entered Europe later were nowhere near as monogamous in their sexual behavior as the northern hunter gatherers, they still only had one wife because to a limited extent they dealt with the same environment. This is in stark contrast to every other group in the world, because they evolved where resources were more plentiful and the environment was able to sustain a polygynous societal model. Therefore, from an evolutionary standpoint it is unnatural for people whose ancestors are from Europe to engage in polyamorous activity. That's not to say that it's intrinsically wrong for other peoples to engage in that behavior, but it is to say that not all peoples are the same and this is especially true in mating patterns.

I understand how polygamy and polyandry can work when people are in long-term survival mode. When the choices seem to be group and survive or struggle alone (or as a couple), it makes sense practically speaking. I can also “sort of” understand it in bisexual relationships. That said, I’d imagine there has to be a certain mindset, set of values, and personality type to work Amongst the individuals to work - and I don’t know what that combination is. For me, a very straight woman and deep introvert who relishes quiet, privacy, and a fair bit of independence, the idea is just not appealing in any way.

Here's another example of the former: https://youtu.be/D_5u6GuSE2I And here's an example of the latter: https://youtu.be/G41lbKRqWHk?t=316 She likes that the family can do more in polygyny. She can work without having to hire a babysitter. You can see the more of these things on their facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/thecowives/

I don't know those women, though I'll check out the clip. I would say in general though, some women may desire it, definitely not the majority. The odds of you finding two women who you actually like and both are into polygamy and both are into you and both are into each other is very low

Alexander Grace

Thanks Alex, this is really interesting. A counter-argument to the theory that only low-quality women would choose this lifestyle is that many women actively desire it. Bisexual women often desire a feminine partner in addition to masculine one, and straight women sometimes desire a female friend to be present in the family, sharing duties and celebrations. Here's an example of the former: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zlWop3StRKI. Would you say that Brooke and Jane are low-quality women?