Asking Women about Men's insecurities
Added 2019-11-30 10:21:03 +0000 UTC
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That's gotta be frustrating. I hope it clears up soon. Any skin condition or blemish, especially on the face, can be a confidence killer. I've known men and women with birth marks, psoriasis, burns, and meningitis scars who have found life partners, so it's not impossible, but I'm sure it's frustrating and disheartening when you just want to be seen as you (not a 'condition').
Margaret
2019-12-03 00:56:15 +0000 UTCHa! I just prefer commenting here on Patreon. No trolls... just honest discussion. Commenting on Alexander's YouTube channel is risky. It brings out ALL the crazies! Lol
Margaret
2019-12-03 00:50:10 +0000 UTCMan, I looked great with hair. Look good without it too. But there was a time I was insecure about it. What for? Generally, most people, even the ones who love you will be less interested in your hair than you are. And those who don't know you won't give a fuck. Maybe for a second or a day and then back to their own sad lives. On point 4. I always had sensitive but good skin. 3 months ago I got impetigo and I can't shake it off. And there is this woman I wish to ask. However, this shit looks awful. Ahhh I don't even notice it most of the time but when I do it bothers me. It's contagious. Real relationship breaker.
Hristo
2019-12-02 23:56:04 +0000 UTCTrue that. A man must be like a hunter and intercept her movements from the get go. Her body speaks. Allowing ones body to listen is key.
Hristo
2019-12-02 23:47:13 +0000 UTCMargaret, you are on fire, aren't you?
Hristo
2019-12-02 23:40:08 +0000 UTCExcellent contributions Margaret. Thanks.
Blair
2019-12-02 07:03:47 +0000 UTCI see what you're saying, but if knowledge allows young men to be aware, mindful, and prepared to respond (not react) with assertiveness (not aggression) it will have an impact. Maybe only on one life or relationship at a time, but we didn't get to this point overnight, and we won't solve it overnight either.
Margaret
2019-11-30 23:38:01 +0000 UTCYes but ultimately it will lack impact. I haven't seen another woman apart from you here for example... In the end, are we really better than an echo chamber ?
Hugo Matiz
2019-11-30 23:27:39 +0000 UTCAgreed. That's why we're here on Patreon. Right? Because mainstream networks and advertisers don't support the message of true equality and fair, open public discourse.
Margaret
2019-11-30 22:38:41 +0000 UTCYes but the problem is that it is much harder for men nowadays to get there whereas women don't have to put this kind of work on themselves. Also, sex is never a goal for a quality man, being with another quality person is. And this goal is so high that sometimes you lose hope it will happen (which explains problems like depression, white men going in asia to date, etc...).Weirdly enough, while feminism is widely talked about nowadays, men's problems are silenced or minored, which I don't understand and find terribly unfair. Feminism should aim at a sort of peace between genders and for this you need to sit at a table and listen to the other side of the story (men's feelings and issues) to come to a satisfying solution for everyone.
Hugo Matiz
2019-11-30 21:28:46 +0000 UTCThanks for the detailed responses! Why is being short a dealbreaker for women in your experience?
Kyle Worden
2019-11-30 17:17:45 +0000 UTC10. Male virginity is almost fetishized by some women. They imagine a Clark Kent type... attractive but socially awkward, someone they can 'teach' and be the one who blows his mind. If you're a virgin and getting older and more anxious about it, remember, EVERYONE starts out as a virgin. Sex happens at the end of a chain of events. Break it down into steps and work on those steps. Work on your health, fitness, knowledge, social skills, all the other elements of attraction and dating. Sex will happen... but not if your anxiety is working against you.
Margaret
2019-11-30 16:30:45 +0000 UTC9. Living with your parents? This may be a red flag, but it is only a deal breaker for some. The key is... WHY are you living with your parents? If you're younger, or in a major life transition, supporting aging parents, from a culture where multi-generational living is normal, etc... then most women will understand and accept or even admire your decision. If however, living with your parents is accompanied by other red flags like inconsistent performance at work or school, toxic family dynamic or lack of ambition, that's something to work on.
Margaret
2019-11-30 16:25:32 +0000 UTC8. Penis size. Guys... guys... you've been watching too much porn. Average in America is somewhere between 5-6 inches. If you are average or below average and that makes you feel insecure in the bedroom, take the time to learn about the female body. Good sex is SO much more than penetration and a race to the finish line. Your confidence and knowledge in the bedroom is far more important than the size of your penis, especially in a committed relationship with a healthy emotional bond.
Margaret
2019-11-30 16:20:41 +0000 UTC7. Oops... I swapped being poor and being short. If you're average height or shorter, you're going to attract less female attention. Sorry. These are facts. However... that is only part of attraction. Find your purpose, focus on your health and fitness, be passionate about YOU, choose clothes that flatter you (have a sense of style) and work on your interpersonal skills. While some women care (a lot) about men's height, MANY women don't.
Margaret
2019-11-30 16:14:23 +0000 UTC6. Fitness is attractive. Bulky muscles... less so. Yes, some women react to ripped bodies the same way men react to enhanced breasts, but when choosing a partner, most people are attracted to 'healthy'. Be active, do some strength training, but don't jump on board the hard core weight training and supplements unless you're just doing that for you. Having too much of a fitness mindset can actually be intimidating or offputting for some women, especially those with their own body image insecurities.
Margaret
2019-11-30 16:09:35 +0000 UTC5. People are self conscious about wearing glasses? ... why? Pick frames that flatter you. Get a decent pair of prescription sunglasses if you need them. Glasses can be sexy.
Margaret
2019-11-30 16:05:32 +0000 UTC4. Uncontrolled acne is unattractive in ANYONE. If you suffer from this, see a dermatologist and treat it. At least to minimize later scarring. For those who battle this, I'm sorry. It sucks.
Margaret
2019-11-30 16:03:32 +0000 UTC3. Men are less affected by this... but women may be less attracted to men of a different ethnicity if they are unfamiliar with the social/religious customs and perceived gender roles. It's a question of 'is there enough common ground to serve as a foundation for a relationship?' And, 'will their friends and family accept me?'
Margaret
2019-11-30 16:01:09 +0000 UTC2. If you have a purpose and ambition, a vision for your future, many women will be as attracted to that potential as they are to your current level of wealth or resources.
Margaret
2019-11-30 15:58:32 +0000 UTC1. Men who are insecure about hair loss... shave it. Embrace it. A very small percentage of women care... and Mr. Clean is sexy.
Margaret
2019-11-30 15:56:03 +0000 UTC
