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First off, thank you for putting this content up. As a male who has been thrown back into the dating after being married for 25 years your page has helped me out a lot. The one thing i am learning to deal with is rejections. I hate to admit it but they suck. But they are getting easier to deal with. After I seen your vid on being an orbital boyfriend something clicked. I realized that being put into the "friend zone" wasn't what i thought it was. It wasnt a promise, it was a rain check and it held me back. It was only when i stepped back and rejected their offers to be "friends" and unfriended them, my dating life seem to take off. I gain more opportunities to meet more women and go on to other dates. Now my biggest problem is the deciding whether or not to give those i rejected a second chance. Ive had one of my past girl friends come back asking if i would consider going out with her again and give it another shot. At this point, my brain is throwing red flags and trust issues are popping up. Can you tell me more about what to do to avoid being drawn back into relationships and dealing with trust issues?

How do you feel about using things like DREAD for those already in LTR or marriages?

The peacock has a big tail - the bigger the better ...

How do I look through your patreon content? Scrolling through the blog and clicking "load more" 10 times just to get back to December content. It's slow and if you click the wrong thing or the back button you have to start all over. So painful as a new supporter.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=II3c267XIM8 ^^ Thoughts? "I Hit The Wall | Advice For Women About The Wall | Life Beyond The Wall "

Just to be clear, are you asking whether or not your description is accurate or are you asking what causes it to change half way through?

Alexander Grace

You talked about how a man orgasmed when his wife said he had a baby cock. But, can you explain the psychology on why women desire a man to have a big cock, and the psychology on why men want to have a desirable cock (above average). What is it about a big penis that is attractive to women, men, and society?

From a man's perspective, his genes want to get as many women pregnant as possible while also making an investment into the survival his children from the best woman that would have him. From a woman's perspective, her genes want the highest amount of diversity of fathers while convincing the one most suitable to support her and all her children. She may even intentionally select the player because if she bears his son, the son is also likely to be a player and spread her genes that much further.

Michael Carleton

The concept of high quality women seems to be very close to the pedestal we used to put women on. Maybe a video on the difference between the two would be useful.

David Koerner

You portrayed the idea that men are islands (that they are in control of their own world and create a lifestyle that women get to choose whether or not they would like to contribute to) but at the same time, there is this idea that men look at what women find attractive and react accordingly to develop these traits. How do you make sense of these two ideas ? On one hand we have a strong individual shaping his own life according to his inner desires, and on the other hand we have a man paying close attention to what is desirable and shapes himself according to what society is looking for.

Hugo Matiz

Alex, i think you assume that men who want high quality women are high quality themselves. I think a man who has experienced low quality women and is committed to changing his dating situation must commit to improving himself. Once he is a high quality guy and committed to continual self improvement he won't be attracted to low quality women.

DC

@alexander: you often say a long term relationship with a high qualify woman brings more happiness than having short term relationships. But after few years, all men seem to have lost love/passion for their wifes. How being with a high quality woman could change that? Are we not at the end men with need to "impregnate as many woman"? If so why not having something in the middle, i.e. serious relationship of few years without marriage, and as soon as the passion left start looking for another relationship.

So for once I'm not gonna dwelve into good and evil or any of the Jungian archetypes. I did promise you an actual relationship-related question the next time you did one of these things, so here it is: In every relationship I've had, there has never seemed to be something I would like to refer to as equilibrium of investments. Typically one partner is more into the other, and so winds up making more sacrifices, spending more reasources and time, to make it work. Who is more invested might very well change during the relationship, though it appears that when the scales tip, they always pass the middle by some margin. Thoughts on this? (Sorry if I'm not expressing myself clearly, English is my second language.)

Rickard Fors

I would be interested in how to maintain attractiveness and game within a relationship. To me it seems very hard because I feel in order to remain attractive and have good game you need to have flirtatious interactions with women. In a relationship you don't have those.

David Koerner

I know a woman who recently got divorced after a 20 year marriage. She was a virgin when she married. And she had a very unfulfilling sexual life in her marriage. Her ex cheated on her multiple times throughout the marriage. Now that she is divorced, I was her second. But she doesn’t want a relationship and I got post-sex friend-zoned. I believe that she doesn’t want to get into a relationship because she wants to “find herself” like she didn’t get to do in her teens and early 20’s. What’s your take on this, Alexander?

That's a nice situation you are in because it will be easy to resolve. Next time you hang out. After saying good by give her a kiss on the cheek. Maybe during your interactions with her touch her gently, like wrap you arm around her waist. In short: escalate very smoothly and gently. If you keep doing that she either will stop seeing you (problem solved) or she will go with it (problem solved). The only way you can loose is by not escalating. If she backs off, never initiate calls or texts. Let her come to you. If she does make a date and try to gently escalate. Rinse and repeat.

David Koerner

In the Western dating market, many girls have slept with a lot of men by their early twenties, whereas little men have had the same opportunity of abundance. This is in contrast to many conservative cultures in Asia, the middle east and parts of Europe. This means that a lot of men are less sexually experienced their girls the same age. Another impact of this is that women are far more demanding of men and expect more of him. How can a young man appeal to girls of the same age, when this environment creates such high expectations? How do you keep an abundance mindset? How do you put yourself out there?

Jeffrey Xie

Yeah, she just used to walk to my car after the classes without me saying anything. Classes start day after tomorrow, and she is coming back tomorrow. She already texted me about wanting to hang out.

Aditya Chandra

Do you still see her? Or did you stop completely after you told her how you felt?

I am an International student from India in New York. Last semester I met a girl in my spanish class and we started hanging out after almost every class which used to end around 8 pm. Then I used to drive her home. I made it clear that I was into her but she told me that she just wanted to be friends. I thought I was being too needy so I stopped putting any effort, but she used to text and hang out with me the whole time. All throughout the winter break, she kept texting me every couple days, and she tells me that she wants to hang out with me. This situation is confusing me a lot.

Aditya Chandra

I'd like to know what you think about women wanting to talk about their problems (feelings) and men wanting to resolve problems. The classic "nail in the forehead" video illustrates this quite nicely https://youtu.be/-4EDhdAHrOg. True? If true, why?

I'd like to hear you explore whether women knowingly tell their boyfriends they're on birth control when they aren't. How many unplanned pregnancies were actually desired by the woman? Young men need to know why women get pregnant. This happens a lot more often than society likes to admit.

DC

Is it true that statistically women masturbate less then men? They’re capable of multiple orgasms so wouldn’t they biologically be more inclined to masturbate more than men? Is shaming the biggest factor affecting their behavior towards masturbation? What do women think of men who do it? When women are in relationships with men how do they feel about a partner who does it? What sort of frequency do they consider normal and what do they consider unhealthy? What does science have to say about it both for men and women?

Hi Alex, is it possible to be submissive during sex and dominant in a relationship? You talk much of how women want to be lead and protected by a strong, masculine man. But there are many women who get off on sexual domination, and many men who are sexually submissive. Would this sexual dynamic effect the harmony of masc/fem in the relationship? And it may not be black and white either...many couples are versatile with dom/sub roles in sex. What are your thoughts? Thanks!!

Oliver

Well then it might have to do with priorities.

I mean they're saving up, they make enough to take women out on dates and even enough to go on trips(while being able to pay for a lifestyle that is still desirable), but they live at home because of either failure to launch outcomes or saving up money while in school, you get what I mean?

Kevin Pereira

I dont think they can have finances figured out if they still live at home with parents.

I'd love a video on people who still live with their parents (I'm 22 and still do) and how that affects dating life, how that affects the mindset of the individual, and how women truly feel about these men (even if they've got plenty of other shit figured out like looks/body, finances, and school).

Kevin Pereira