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If she’s really a high quality woman she wouldn’t be banging 10-20 guys after a break up. I suspect her post break up promiscuity is not entirely because she had unsatisfactory sex in her marriage. I think the main reason is because she lacks the emotional maturity/intelligence to properly heal herself after a breakup in a healthy way. Therefore, she resorts to this coping mechanism of relentless casual sex to fill that void in her with external validation to convince herself that she is still desirable (given that her ex-husband cheated on her multiple times). It gives her a sense of ‘empowerment’ to gain some sort of control of herself and her self-esteem albeit a superficial and a fleeting one. If she was really a high quality woman, she will deal with her breakup/divorce in a healthy way by taking the time out to heal herself properly and coming to terms with it (not jump on the cock carousel). Lots of virgin women (and men) go through breakups or get cheated on. That doesn’t mean all of them start fucking around like there’s no tomorrow. This, I suspect, is a sign of a low quality woman.

You are correct, Michael. I was burned after a marriage with a woman that had a high notch count. I was naive in my youth and didn’t even consider it to be a red flag. My ex could not get over the rush of having a new man and every time I was out of the country serving our people, someone else was serving her. It devastated me; because it happened and she was so good at hiding it. When I found this woman with such a low notch count, I thought things could be different, but alas she was not interested in a monogamous lifestyle anymore. She will never be the same after she has her fun with many other men. And she will most likely become like my ex: unable to pair bond and always wondering what the next guy can offer.

What I think may be motivating the letter writer is that he is interested in this woman because of her low notch count. If she comes back to him after having 20 other partners she will not be the same woman in his eyes. I'm not personally focused on my partner's notch count but I know that there are other men that consider it very important.

Michael Carleton

First, I want to thank you for this comment. I had never considered this before. Second, I am mystified. Are women genetically incapable of effective communication? How about asking your husband to take you from behind? Is that really so hard? Now with the internet? There are these things called libraries. They're been around for a long time. They have books about many things, including Kama Sutra. The subtext of your comment is that only men can provide women with ideas about sex. I find this bizarre. You can even read a book about Kama Sutra WITH your boyfriend/husband. It's amazing... no reason to be a promiscuous girl whatsoever...

Kent C Johnson

I think people underestimate how much stories like this woman’s have contributed to the promiscuity of girls today. When I was a young girl I’d heard enough examples like that - or at least stories of bad sexual lives. I’ll never forget one lady who’d divorced and overhearing her tell my mom she’d only ever had sex missionary position her entire marriage and how starry eyed she was when she found out sex could be pleasurable. Her stories and others like it directly impacted why I refused to save my virginity till marriage. Granted I never wanted to be promiscuous either so in the end I had one other partner before my husband. With the internet now women can learn about sex and strategies for how to change what’s happening in the bedroom if it isn’t great - but those anecdotal stories are a powerful on a young girls mind.

If she's looking to have sex with 10-20 low-quality guys, I would not consider her high quality.

Ryan Stallard