PATREON EXCLUSIVE - Should You Be Worried About Hypergamy?

Should I be personally no...in context of ur girl being faithful... hypergamy doesn't help but she'll sleep with that bum on the corner if he could find away to make her feel good. Should society be worried absolutely...all things need balance... hypergamy is completely unbalanced and dangerous for our society....do all women cheat no but what percentage of women that absolutely wouldn't cheat 1% or less. Good luck it's a gamble with your entire existence....how would you know if those women have cheated in those relationships you say they should have left...you can't believe she's going to give you 100% honesty....she almost can't....I have the privilege of observation of many women and man and couples... woman are simply not faithful in our modern times. Trust me....no it is not a equal balance...of women who practice hypergamy and those who don't partake and stay faithful....you pretty much can prevent a unfaithful person from being unfaithful. All you can do is take your time...and try to make sure she checks every single last box no exceptions....sounds like you are not fully in on this hypergamy thing.... you are completely off with this one Alex.

I know! That's ALWAYS the first thing that enters my mind! It always they other guys fault, isn't it?

thank you

should you be worried about hypergamy? short answer: No

Not so much you explaining things which is 'interesting' but more or less woke (and thus relevant for your age group} but it should be different and 'better'

Yes, always relevant, but choose your own path and do not care But, ....... I liked your channel when you did the interviews with girls, so you could see what they where thinking and explaining their motives.

It seems very deep, neutral and practical analysis to me! The first thing I have noticed about the red pill society was that their narrative was very much limited to one category (probably majority) of woman and not assuming that high quality and loyal woman can ever exist. Thank you for this video!

You've been watching Rollo videos, that's almost paraphrasing what he said in one of his videos I saw recently.

Polygon Masterworks

Hypergamy is a real thing, but the RP community, particularly the guys that have something to sell you (the Rich Coopers and Rollos of the world) tend to go overboard with it. There's also many guys who don't understand nuances and take an almost autistic interpretation of it, like if some guy that does 50k more than you annually will immediately make your wife more wet. It doesn't work like that for most women, as long as you have solid value as a man and meet her needs the likelihood that she will monkey branch is slim to none.

Polygon Masterworks

I totally agree with you here. Red pill, like many other new movements, are based on conflict rather than on solving problems.

Should you be aware and know what hypergamy is, where it originates from? Yes. should you be worried about hypergamy? Well unless constantly worrying about something you have zero control on seems like an effective strategy to you I would say no, don't worry about things you can't control. I'd say it's mostly preemptive work by picking a reliable, healthy partner, and by working on yourself to remain the grounded, confident, hard working man she admired when she met you. Other than, focusing too much on the possibility of being dumped because hypergamy can not only lead to a very dark place of negative feelings like fear, jealousy and lack of confidence, it's also a self fullfilling prophecy in the sense of displaying these signs of fear and weakness will only speed up the process of you being dumped.

he was a beta male thats why she monkey branched

@2:50, It's very true that when there's more than one person involved and you're hearing just one person's account, that's only one side of the story. It surprises me how often people forget or overlook this. Before trying to arrive at any conclusion or judgement, make sure you've heard from the other party as well. Also, cheating is not the norm, it's the exception. Good relationships need to be built over time and if both parties are happy then it's stupid to risk losing everything you've gained. How can you gauge that you can build something similar or better just from a cursory exposure to somebody else. The only reason to leave would be if the relationship has taken a wrong turn with little chance of correcting it's course because of one or both people faltering. This is why I believe cheating is the exception not the norm and you don't need to be paranoid about it.

Ashwin Srinivas

Agree with all of this. My grandfather gave similar advice to one of your points when I was a teenager. He said “never follow advice based on people’s should haves, would haves, and could haves. Find the people who are successful in what you want to achieve and emulate that.” That advice has always stuck with me and never steered me wrong. Also, I always questioned the hypergamy/monkey branching thing. I’ve never had any interest in other men so either 1) my husband is a god among men (which, to be fair - he really is) or 2) maybe it’s not so clear cut an issue. Because the reality is, could I get a guy who is richer - maybe. But a I’m a jeans and T-shirt kinda girl. I have no desire for a life of yachting and mansion parties. Could I get a guy who is more handsome- doubt it- but even if it were possible I wouldn’t want the drama that comes with supermodel dudes. Could I get a guy who is smarter - maybe with more book smarts but my husband has the perfect blend of street and book smarts that I trust to lead us through any situation. It is totally cliche of course because while not “perfect” - he is perfect for me. And all the women I know in happy long term relationships feel the same way about their husbands.

I'd suggest a minor correction. Women, generally, don't plan to monkey-branch. Rather, they have monkey-branching happen to them. Let me explain. Women are the egg that is relentlessly being hit on by sperm from every direction. If she's not happy with you, one of those sperm... maybe a more dominant, richer, taller, funnier, or more handsome sperm, or maybe just a useless buffoon that disarms her... might entice her to monkey-branch away from you. Your task, should you accept it, is simply to be the best that you can be. If she is swayed by some low-quality sperm's masquerade, then that is her problem and your solution... never look a gift-horse in the mouth.

Hyper gamy was one of those things I heard from the Red Pill community that I never fully bought into. I found that you have to evaluate who people are individually and that will be a better barometer in how they will act rather than the gender they were assigned. Sure, men and women are different. I would be more concerned about whether my partner was vindictive in her past relationships than I would be about “hypergamy”. Even if a woman does act on that, at least you will know by that point that she wasn’t the right one for you anyway.

Kyle Worden

Here's a tough message, this guy's fear originates in his own insecurity that he's not good enough. Before your next relationship work on yourself. When you resolve your insecurity you won't be worried that she'll leave you, and you probably won't be attracted to those low quality women.

DC

This video brings common sense to my irrational paranoia

Devin Barnes