PATREON EXCLUSIVE: Can You Turn A Hoe Into A Housewife?

I've been there too. It really sucks.

Super timely, I just ended a situation just like this. Ultimately for me it came down to a lack of her true ambition, discipline, and questionable genuine words. Without my presence or prompting, all these things were lacking, messy, and my problem to fix. Without me in the picture she was floundering in life and ultimately I don't want to be on the hook for "saving" someone. I helped her quite a bit, but it always came back to me needing to do more. It's too risky, too much uneven work, and doesn't give a good indication of how she would raise children. If she can't direct her own time, energy, emotion, resources, etc... how will she ever help direct mine occasionally as a partner in down times or those of our children that depend on her.

Speaking from personal experience of being infatuated on one woman and being blinded from all other options: Long term result: Anhedonia and unrequited love. Not recommended. Now when I look back 15 years, it’s like seeing someone else go through it and it feels weird to acknowledge that THAT was ME. I was naive and had blind idealism. 4 years wasted time and energy. I learned a shit load in the aftermath though haha

Craig

The devil is in the drug. Snap out of it! Try to remember...

Short Answer: No. Long Answer: No, you cannot.

At least you remembered to breathe at the end :D

Some of that about the time sink for oneitis hit home especially hard :O

Really great wisdom here! Thanks Alex.

Blair

AG's next video: How to make a husband out of your hound-dog self.

Couldn't agree more. I have definitely made this mistake before and it wasn't worth it. As you say, better to be alone and celibate than in something toxic and hurtful.

Nicola Kalderash

"You're a mental mess" 🤣🤣

If a woman REALLY doesn’t want to do something, I agree wholeheartedly that it won’t be sustainable even if she tries in the beginning for her partner (or because she believes it’s what’s expected in a relationship). As an example, I am not a fan of cooking. I’m actually a pretty good cook but I do not enjoy it... and cooking for others causes me stress and anxiety. When I first moved in with my husband (boyfriend at the time) I tried to play the traditional role and cook every night. After a year, I ended up having to sit down with him and talk it out because no way could I play that role for the long term and be happy. Lucky for me it wasn’t a deal breaker for him and we live a life where he cooks sometimes, I cook sometimes, or we go out to eat.

Another savvy words from Alexander, "is a woman improving independently based of her motivations or is she doing this ebcause is what you want?". I agree that if it is second, it will never work.

oschicus

Hahhah, me too. I stopped what I was doing and come inmediatelly.

oschicus

The title of this piece just cracked me up