PATREON EXCLUSIVE: Can You Go From Being Friends With A Girl To Something Romantic?

I had a few men who I dated after being friends, with some we went back to being just friends, had one long term boyfriend who was my friend first. Also my first husband was my friend for 1,5 years first. My second husband was my acquitance and after a long time my friend before we started dating.

Liandra

I met her through work / friends, but I still lost and got my heart destroyed.

Last minute resistance, but normally it's used in the context of just before you are about to have sex with a woman she can say "oh no I can't do this", in my experience it doesn't happen too often but some men report it more than others. In any case the way you handle this situation is to back off and not pressure her into having sex. The post above is using LMR in a different setting.

Not being ready for a relationship helps with avoiding bad feelings from getting friend-zoned. As a man, I met two women who I am still in touch with on an online dating site, one of which I play games with online once every other week. The first one I met three years ago, it was made clear that she was not looking for anything romantic at the time and I was not looking for anything serious or looking to hookup. I was not attracted to her either. The second one seemed like a really interesting and high-quality person and she was when I got to know her. Even though the signals I got from her suggested she only liked me as a friend, it doesn't bother me because I don't expect anyone to be romantic with me.

ActOnInstinct

what is LMR?

Got friend zoned twice,although I was clear about my intentions from day1.Left the scene at that point and both came back,one even begged me to be as "close" as before and raged (and even try to destroy my reputation) when I rejected her by stating that I wanted more,if not I was out.Later I learned that this attitude was a LMR on her side thanks to this awesome dude.Both didnt work out in the end because both screwed up by disrespecting me so I said adios.Save yourself the heartache if friendzoned, but be clear of your intentions and aim for a balance of friendship and flirtation.

But I guess even if you meet her through your social circle, you as the man should keep her in the friend zone during the "process".

Great video as always. (My inner mathgeek can't help but chime in: low odds = high probability.) I've had women from my friendzone try to get romantic with me as well, sometimes as a guy you just need to be there as yourself.

Rickard Fors

Confession time: I was friendzoned by my now ex-wife for 2 years before we got together and got married. We were together for 16 years before getting divorced and we've both moved on now but we're still good friends. When we finally got together, she said her feelings changed and she became attracted to me as soon as I dropped the Oneitis / niceguy behaviour (being too nice, agreeable etc) and started being myself more and taking an interest in other women...

Communicate With Confidence

It can definitely happen the other way around. Witnessed it happen many times first hand...

Communicate With Confidence

OMG I loved it when he said 'friendzone her first'! That was awesome! I wonder if anyone here knew a woman who got friendzoned by a man? I have never witnessed it myself, and until Alexander said that, it never occurred to me. But I'm curious to know if it can happen the other way around.

Jennifer Coopman

I only had two boyfriends and both were friends first. As for others I know, almost all of them met their spouses by being friends first. I was really hard pressed to think of anyone who hadn’t. Granted, I’m older and we really didn’t have dating sites way back when.

I honestly never understood the concept of the "friendzone" and why guys are pissed off about it. Like AG said, if you're interested in a woman, take it at a steady pace and soon enough, make your romantic interest abudnantly clear. If she does not reciprocate or give you an emphatic "yes" then just assume that she's not interested and move on. If it feels OK in your terms, you can continue being friends but if you feel hurt or uneasy being freinds with her then don't be. Either way, it seems that the "friendzone" is something that people trap themselves in. Just assume that that particular door is closed because "ONEitis" isn't good either and pursue other women. That's your ticket out of that imaginary place. Common reasons why people might be stuck in the "friendzone": - They are too scared to make a move and take it a little too slowly. - They have ONEitis and are willing to stick around after rejecton in hopes of trying again and again till they prevail. That must remain in the movies and fantasy stories. - They are willing to be orbiters and serve as an ego boost to women thinking that they will be rewarded for their hard work in future. These are my views. #AGcrew!!

Ashwin Srinivas

Very good video, thanks for the analysis!