PATREON EXCLUSIVE: How To Handle A Woman Who Is Always Fishing For Compliments

Mine was a bit different. In a single instance she would be negative about herself and no matter what I said she would continue.

It's important to be honest with yourself. Although there's a component of selflessness in helping your girlfriend pay for her therapy, you still do that selfishly, because it's in your best interest foe her to have less psychological issues. Also, this kind of things build up trust and strengthen the relationship, which is also in your best interest

It’s technically both. While the hope is that a man will respond with “no - you look good” - it is also a test because if a woman absolutely does NOT look good in an outfit (or at least on par with anything else she’d wear) the man will fail the test if he doesn’t say something. It’s kind of like if a woman has something stuck in her teeth - if you saw it and didn’t say something she’ll get mad because that meant so many other people saw her with stuff in her teeth and that embarrassment outweighs the embarrassment of the guy pointing it out right away. So, if a girl does look abnormally fat or bad in a dress and it’s clear to you but you don’t say something - that would be a failed test if she realizes the truth later on. Clear as mud?

It can seem the difference between “fishing for compliments” and a “sh-it test” can be difficult to discern. Do you have any insights on this. The classic question is “does this dress make me look fat.” Never sure if it’s to seek a complement or a test.

Joseph Madden

Now that I see this video, I recall fishing for favors being an issue on a relationship that I had, you know, asking for favors without asking but casually mentioning the inconvenience, like: "I'll have to take the bus today, I guess I'll get wet, oh well..." Instead of asking directly if I can drive her there. Of course I had offered but after the 10th time it become my responsability to be her driver. I know how to handle it now but just remember it by seeing this video, lol

Jimmy Madrigal

Very interesting take on this issue Alexander, I am a woman myself and never fish for compliments, not because I don't have insecurities but because I just feel that every outcome of fishing for compliments wouldn't help me... like "hey do I look fat", the answers are obviously yes or no. If I am objectively fat and my man lies to me then I have it in my head that he just says I am not fat because he has to say that or he thinks I won't want to sleep with him. If I am objectively not fat then the same rules apply tbh because I still need external validation. Obviously no man would ever dare to say yes you are fat. I like your idea of discussing the issue when the woman is in a better place, I agree with this. I think that when a woman is fishing for compliments she is starving for the fish and needs to eat now... but when she isn't in a place where she is starving then teaching her how to be self sufficient without your help will do much better in the long run... it is basically that analogy of give a man a fish xxx

Alisha

Oh and marry christmas everyone

Andrés De La Sur

These are good things to know. Thanks, Alex. I haven’t had much of these problems since I’m always making lots of genuine ovations to my friends and lovers. Nevertheless, my actual girlfriend has self steem problems and it’s very defficult to cope with them since they are linked to trauma with her family. She is a great girl and ee have decided that she will be going to therapy. I’m just lovely pacient and since the moment we agreed that we will be saving money for therapy, she is getting less anxious. I think even the gesture of being openly saving money for her therapy has helped her a lot, maybe because that communicates “you are so worthy that I’ll selflessly invest in your wellness and I’ll be happy make an effort”. Things are getting better each week. Hugs!

Andrés De La Sur