PATREON EXCLUSIVE: How To Tell A Woman You're Only Interested In Something Casual

As a woman I will only improve for a high value man I really really like. But someone beneath me with an average job and a man body, I don't think so. Next, please. I would not tell Keanu Reeves to go on a diet for me. I Exaggerate, but you get the picture. If your average you get average, if your high value you get high value. I date in my lane and it keeps me from awkward conversations.

Yep, Alex is spot on here, though David makes good points too. My comment: One of the main breakdowns in modern dating is how common it is for young women to get sexual before they’ve conveyed any clear signals to the man that they’re looking for a serious relationship, or that in their past they have found casual sexual relationships to be hurtful and not something they want to repeat. The dynamic of sex coming BEFORE defining the relationship serves men more than it does women. Which, of course, is ironic, given the influence feminism has had on (the catastrophe of) modern dating.

Blair

Unfortunately a man being cocky, arrogant, condescending is exactly most women like; since most women are low value women. While a man being respectful, honest, authentic and kind, is most women would put to friend zone if not outright reject. That being said modern women don't deserve being treated with respect and honesty. A woman is always looking for a better deal, period. Even if she's in her 30s, when her fertility is almost gone, and verbally asks where your relationship is going; in which case she's most definitely looking at you as a beta provider who can be her financial back up while she's looking for another Chad in the wild.

If she asks you whether you're dating other people, keep it anonymous and fun. If she's lsmv than you, you should downplay your strength and say, ''ive been looking for someone that i click the most, even they mentioned i'm like a playboy.'' The reason is you want to keep it mysterious so that she will keep chasing you but don't be an asshole about it. When you sense any moment that she feels uncomfortable and tensed up, keep exploring her mentality. DEEP DIVE HER. That will bring your market value closer with each other.

Yeah I agree about being honest when the topic comes up. Sometimes I don’t even know what I’m looking for myself. A related question is how long do you need to date a women to know.

Andy

Intentionally, consciously, stringing someone along when it is clear they want/need one thing - while you have completely different intentions - is definitely a shit thing to do. This is true irrespective of gender and whether there is some degree of shared benefit. I was trying to think of an analogy outside of relationships and while not a perfect example, what came to mind was this.... Going up to a homeless man on the street and saying “hey man, want to get a bite to eat.” Then taking him to a place where you both eat. Then you ditch and leave the homeless guy with the bill. Like yeah, you were both hungry and got to eat (shared benefit) - but he wouldn’t have gone with you if he knew all you wanted was a free meal when it was clear he couldn’t pay for it. Of course, finding “clarity” when interacting with other human beings (especially one of the opposite gender) is usually the rub, isn’t it. 😆

Finding a woman that is willing to work on herself is rare, but not impossible. I believe it has to do with "woman of high quality" as well as how she perceives your value as a man. If you are of similar value on the sexual marketplace then she wouldn't be motivated to improve herself. My latest relationship that lasted about 2.5 years had my then SO improve herself in various areas. However, some of the improvements slipped back during the latter part of the relationship.

Great video mate, I can certainly say I've struggled with some of these concepts in the past lol....

There are no casual vs. serious relationships. Its all a negotation process and sex is a big part of it. Women (30+) use sex aggressively to lure a men into a relationship. And they know what they are doing and how the game is played very very well. Once sex is going, you can set the clock for the exclusivity-talk. Then you tell her that you are not prepared to become exclusive and then she can decide if she wants to call you the next time she needs sex. It is as simple as that. The way Alexander wraps it in his video by talking about standards etc. is bullshit. Its not different from making her think that she still has a chance for a serious relationship to have her keep giving sex. What I dislike is Alexander's take on being immoral when trying to have sex without committment with a 30+ who is looking to build a family. Men following this judgement may feel morally upright but very likely will have less sex or none if you are dating in the secondary dating market. Alexander is right in saying that you don't have to always follow your biological instinct. But how about denying it completely? Women, like every human being, have conflicting interests which they need to resolve. They want a family with the highest quality male they can attract but they also want sex. The proposal of not working with that dynamic in some way equates to removing oneself from the negotiation process and giving your place to the competition. Further, it is illusive to think that a women will work on herself to try to fullfill your expectations. Good luck having another date after telling her (in the nicest way possible) that she doesn't meet your standards yet. This is certainly not the way you will get sex without committment. Women 35+ likely have children and during the few free evenings will have other things to do than trying to meet the requirements of one of her 100+ tinder matches. Finally, the moral argument. Where is the moral of a single mother in her late thirties who expects you to become the father of her child(ren) and accept that you very likely will never have children on your own with her?

David Koerner