PATREON EXCLUSIVE: Should You Masturbate Before Going On A Date?

There is benefits to it. I did that before I got good reins on my own self control. It's kind of a mental crutch to get you going at a young age. Somewhat similar to riding a trike to get used to pedals then move on to bike with training wheels. The idea is to have aid in order to start somewhere. No one does backdrops wheelies and stoppies first time they get on a bike. It served me well to reintegrate in to dating after failed marriage. Jacking off is a method to a purpose. But I am 100% with you on having that sexual energy harnessed. It must be extremely satisfying for a woman to feel that vibe from me having it under a total control.

New perspective! love it :)

i was on a date with a week semen retention, my focus was ON POINT, GROUNDED and i was self amused, even every touches doing onto her felt electrifying! It is interesting....

no, never

Yes. The problem with masturbation and porn is the focus on self and the inflaming of sexual desire.

I believe the benefit of NoFAP, Semen Retention and masturbation before a date, is that the mans focus is shifted towards the needs of his partner vs thinking of himself. Unfortunately, men take the process literally, believing that the limited physical benefits they gain from NoFAP for example is the reason they come across more masculine and sure of themselves. If they understood what AG is saying between the lines as well as taking the videos literally, they would understand that who they are is what makes them attractive, not what they do.

As soon as I saw the title I immediately thought of Something About Mary and so glad you mentioned it. That whole scene in the movie was hilarious 😂

When you're young, you get defensive about your sexual energy, you want to hide it, you're a bit ashamed or even afraid to come across as creepy. As you grow older and more confident, you find that as your best weapon, in fact. And I love it, I'm totally unappologetical about having sexual desire for a woman. That espouses confidence, and coupled with the sexual energy, it os just driving them crazy(in a good way). Never hide your feelings/desires, speak your mind and be proud of your masculinity. And all this comes from one of the most introverted people you've ever seen: yes, me. Totally opposite now, in my early 30s.

Yes, I agree with the point Alexander made, because on dates sexual energy always works in my advantage.

Andris Hardins

Does it make a difference if you know beforehand you're going to get laid on the date? When I was in my 20s I was pretty good at letting the guy know early that if we hooked up, I was going to expect to 'hook up'.  I thought knowing that would arouse him and take the pressure off him, and avoid him trying to manipulate me when it wasn't even necessary.  I probably would've been disappointed, insulted even, if I knew he had masturbated before arriving. But then again, when Alexander talked about feeling out of control with your sexual energy it reminded me of my old self. When they coined the term 'fast' woman, they might as well have been taking about me.  I liked foreplay, but I don't know if I could've handled it for more than 15 mins without going nuts.

Jennifer Coopman

My thoughts on the matter are on the same lines as AG's but more concretely fleshed out, I think. What is being referred to here is commonly known as sexual energy transmutation. I first came across it in the book, "Think and Grow Rich" by Napolean Hill. A good way to go about doing it is through mindfullness and meditiation, of which, one core principle is to not fight any thoughts and feelings but to let them come, put a label on them, do not engage with them and let them go. With sexual energy, this is actually quite empowering. Let it come, enjoy what it does to you but just be like, "Yeah, this is sexual energy" and soak it all up and just continue living in the moment doing whatever else you were doing. I'm pretty big on mindfulness and meditation and use the app called "Headspace", which I think is aweosme and hence, I advocate the above method. But of course, there are other ways to do it, like maybe dancing instead of wanking etc. More leads into this are below: https://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Energy-Transmutation-secret-Health/dp/1477474145#:~:text=This%20book%20offers%20great%20insights,Read%20more

Ashwin Srinivas

One complaint I hear a lot from women on dates is that a lot of guys come across as "all cock and no heart". Guys can give off the vibe of just viewing the girl as an avenue to getting laid, and that obviously makes them feel objectified. Women, who are generally more emotional creatures than men, want to feel your presence emotionally as well as physically on a date. They want to feel a connection with you. I've always felt that having a "tactical jerk-off" was a way to get on the same page as women during a date, to make room for more energy from the heart and less energy from the cock...

Communicate With Confidence

I did it once because she was driving me literally insane. It was just before our third date. Well, clear thoughts didn't last long and 15 mins into the date, I was ready to go again :)...Totally agree, a woman loves to feel that a man has sexual desire for her. If she fancies him of course. I think she feels the energy that comes out of desire. We stayed together for 1 year.

I totally agree, I was thinking from the title you were going to encourage guys to jack-off before a date to appear less desperate but you pretty much said everything I thought. I learned something interesting in psychology that there was a study done on people with schizophrenia, it found that the people who had schizophrenia who felt that the voices and delusions had control over them were the ones who were more distressed. Now I know that seems obvious and we don’t know if it is cause and effect but the moral of the story is that I think this schizophrenia study can be applied to a lot of things in life. If these men fear their sexual energy and believe it has control over them then they will struggle on a date if they haven’t jacked-off. Sexual energy is a good thing and like you said, being able to delay gratification shows a lot of strength in character. However, I thought that maybe one of the concerns from whoever messaged you might not be about a girl sensing his desperation but maybe that he might not have as good a judgement and therefore tolerate someone who isn’t a good match because he is horny xxx

Alisha

I read this as “should you masturbate on your date?” and was thinking wtf? 🤣 xxx

Alisha