PATREON EXCLUSIVE: Should you keep sleeping with other women until you've had the official exclusivity talk?

Depends on the girl, what is she like as a person, I think there is nothing wrong with the guy bringing up the exclusivity talk as long as he goes about it in a non needy way. It has been a few months with you both, can you tell she really enjoys being around you?

Alisha

I agree on several points If I imagine myself in this situation, and I imagine I have been showing up for the relationship in a way I would a monogamous committed relationship And after say 4 months we havnt had a clarifying talk yet. Id feel like a right idiot for keeping myself for someone who “maybe” isnt And then comes the huge danger of simply assuming she is still entertaining other guys, and yet she just might be assuming that I noticed that she is committed And if she is not, and I am just part of the roster . I’d be so pissed why I didn’t stand to myself and to my want to add to my needs. After a reasonable time (maybe about three months) if she hasn’t. Id want to Atleast know if this is going somewhere or not If its been “fun” and why put a lable on it, comes as an answer. Oof But i know what the story is. I’d like to say, I would just continue breaking that back for the fun of it, but knowing that are usually catch feels for the people I sleep with because I actually tend to like them and don’t just sleep with any moist hole I would have to cut and run . Clearly I would want more than they would, and that is a power dynamic that makes my testicles withdraw into my body. 🤷‍♀️

Peter

TLDR: At what point do you assume the talk is never going to come and what do you do? Im Listening to the first half the 3rd time. distractions oof The question I keep posing to myself is If you are waiting for the girl to initiate the exclusivity talk At what point do you assume the talk is never going to come and what do you do? An example would be I really like this girl, and we have been dating for three months and after 2 months I am start acting in a way i would in an ltr. But there has been no talk and being a gorgeous social and lively person it would be delusional to think she doesnt have guys after her. At this point i want to know what is up, is this going somewhere or is she stringing me along as part of her rotation. I dont want to be 6 months down the road… hey but i thought. Hey ive been kinda monogamous and you been keeping your option’s open. That just sounds like holding a big ol niaevity L I also dont reallly like the idea if spinning plates and the “first” one that calls dibs, i commit to. Generally i have known, who i like best. Getting with the other without a honest concerted “this is what i want” talk feels like selling my wants and needs down the river.

Peter

I have been so busy lately with a new job so sorry for the delay, this was a really interesting video and honestly I have no idea who I side with more. Maybe it does depend on how you wish to be perceived, if I was a guy who wanted something long term then I do think the actions of a long term partner without saying anything can create a bit of an anxiety that creates some desire or infatuation. So I guess it makes sense. But then again if I was seeing a guy and I really liked him and we hadn’t had the exclusivity talk yet and I found out he was sleeping around I would believe that he wasn’t that into me and start to distance myself. I’m not a jealous person at all but I think if you are in the beginning stages of something it should be exciting to the point that other people aren’t usually on your mind. It is a tough call. I would tell men not to sleep around anyway because of the dangers or casual sex but I do get the whole oneitis thing being a problem. If you can address your oneitis (which I know is hard if your options are limited which is the reality for most men) then you could scare potential women off with your clingy behaviour

Alisha

Interesting take! So if you’re selling a poor product, you should withhold that information from the buyer?

Hell no you don’t tell her. There’s zero benefit. You’re in sales and dude just led with how poor of product he was pitching.

Bill Washinski

When I was younger I never slept around but I found it easier to do. Now I find it unusual but women tend to want to attach to me a lot faster than when I was in my youth. These are not children these are some women with some maturity usually divorced , widows. Have not talked about this in a group I'm associated with it's just unusual. Lucky or unlucky these women are in a larger City a hundred miles away from where I live.

Domald

I believe it comes down to how serious I am about finding a serious relationship. I can honestly say, in the past, sleeping around was about working through sexual debt.

Mark Bryski