Lauren was interviewed on News Nation last night, plus a parenting fail
Added 2022-10-18 22:15:21 +0000 UTCJohn took Banks last night during mom's live interview and went to his parent’s house. You can watch the full interview above, but trigger warning: Heartbreaking details about the kidnapping case out of Excelsior Springs, MO.
John hasn’t been following this case in as much detail as I have, and I didn't realize they would be watching my interview. Looking back, I should have warned them not to let Banks listen. Alas, Banks was in the room during the segment. He came home and told me he saw me on TV. 😬 Before bed, I asked him if he was listening to what I was saying on the news. Luckily, he said he wasn't listening, and we hope it's true! So far he’s asked no questions that make me worried, but it’s another reminder that it’s becoming harder to shield him completely from our family business in true crime. Code talk isn’t as easy either. How to balance work and child rearing is part of the parenting journey and we’re figuring it out day by day. Has anyone else dealt with something similar? Any advice is welcome.
Upcoming news: John and I have plans for Friday night’s show! Babysitter is scheduled, and we suspect you won’t want to miss it ☺️. It will be Daybell themed, and has been a long requested topic. Any guesses?
Also, a new podcast is also coming soon. I’ve been working!
Great things await!
Lauren (and John)
“Dad, take my picture with mom.” -Banks
Comments
Wow. Precious
Mary
2023-04-30 11:55:47 +0000 UTCI’ve said it before. You are an amazing interviewer with extreme integrity and the insight and patience to know when someone is ready to share. This interview gave us more insight into these tragic events then any other source. You and Dr. Babe, along with the good Lori are triple gems. Thank you!
lynn sorrentino
2022-11-14 01:49:00 +0000 UTCOMG Lauren , I could tell you’re an factual reporter, stopped to be an at home mom, even bigger job. Seeing this confirmed my intuition of you. You are amazing, you are a Pro. Hope to see you in Las Vegas news. I never watch the news anymore I get depressed but if I know it’s YOU reporting I WILL watch. And, to the victim (s) there are no words. Just tears
Terri Roberts
2022-10-22 04:54:11 +0000 UTC🤣
ShaRee
2022-10-20 20:38:18 +0000 UTCThank you Melanee. We always look forward to your comments.
Lauren and John Matthias
2022-10-20 19:08:07 +0000 UTCThank you Michelle!
Lauren and John Matthias
2022-10-20 19:07:36 +0000 UTCThis means so much to both John and me. Thank you for your kind words. We read your comment out loud this morning
Lauren and John Matthias
2022-10-20 19:05:56 +0000 UTCWe love this comment! Thank you for sharing this.
Lauren and John Matthias
2022-10-20 19:03:54 +0000 UTCYour comment about Julie rowe made john and I laugh so hard. I thought I had arrived after Julie’s rant too.
Lauren and John Matthias
2022-10-20 19:01:40 +0000 UTCOutstanding reporting, Lauren! You are such a pro with multiple, relevant details and compassion + passion that shows. Love the pic of Banks with mama on TV. Glad he didn’t pay attention!
Melanee Evans
2022-10-20 07:31:26 +0000 UTCFor sure- I wasn’t protected from information ( house full of teens) but was still protected and felt like these scary things just happened to people who live along long way away. Fast forward to having my own- one of mine saw a news flash about a police shooting and his busy little mind - he was worried. I stupidly said “ it’s a long long way away like Melbourne - and they only shoot bad people “ ( he was too young to explain the politics of bad/good police training ) So his brain took that info and he turned it into “ if we go to Melbourne I have to wear a tie so the police know I’m good and won’t shoot me.” But he didn’t tell me this until 5 years later. All I knew was he had to wear a tie if we were going to Melbourne abs he would have a giant conniption if I tried saying “ I can’t find it- it’s ok surely if you don’t wear it every time ?” No. He would hold furniture if u tried to get him out of the house with no tie for a Melbourne excursion. I knew whatever was going on it was crucial so sometimes had to stop to buy another tie on the way. But he’s fine now. A big adult man who can go to Melbourne with no tie lol But my other two saw those news flashes as well and it had no apparent effect on them. But my little one - also had bad dreams from seeing just the ad for the Godzilla movie. Banks is a clever one with an inquisitive logical honest mind I think- I’m sure he will be fine and the type of kid who openly discusses everything- as opposed to my little one who kept his worry cards close to his chest.
Tad Auty
2022-10-19 05:11:57 +0000 UTCI was the “last cab off the rank” Siblings were 13,11,9 and 7 when I was born. So by the time I was aware of what was being said- they were all teens. So I relate to this comment a lot lol
Tad Auty
2022-10-19 05:00:49 +0000 UTCParents model to the child what to look for in a partner, the best gift a parent can give a child is to deeply love their spouse, to model communication, to provide a safe environment where conflict does happen, but is resolved with kind words, apologies and happy endings. I have found that if a child has a good parent model, that child will make a good choice in finding a spouse, not always, but for the most part, they learn to be wise. That said, you and John are doing a GREAT job with little Banks, that little one is showered with love and is starting to look like a little man. I love how you and John light up when you talk about your little guy. Keep doing what you are doing, he looks pretty happy to me :) Oh yea, I did see the clip on Banfield, it was fun to say, Hey I know her !!
Michelle Matas
2022-10-19 03:18:18 +0000 UTCI should also mention that my kids are adults now. They are just fine. One works with children diagnosed with autism and one works for Habitat for humanity. I have a feeling Banks will be just fine, too. :)
Katie Alosi
2022-10-19 02:15:53 +0000 UTCI was a true crime kid from waaaay back. I would wake up and listen to the 11:00 news when I was supposed to have been asleep for hours. The news music would come on faintly (my parents had it turned down to prevent exactly what I was doing) but that music meant I was up and had my ear to the door. I remember as far back as Watergate. I was so young I asked my poor mother if the president was impeached, did that mean there was no America any more and if would we have to move. N I wasn't scared, I just wanted to know. So, I had no understanding, but a lot if curiosity. I heard horrible things. It made me want to help. It made me want to become a peace officer. Ended up going into sociology. I wanted to understand the whys. I don't think I'm damaged. I think it made me empathetic. Because of my childhood I put no restrictions on my children regarding current events and news. I of course monitored other things. I actually was pretty strict. My reasoning was, this will be their world soon. I want them to hear the reality of that world with me right there so we can talk about it in the moment. Mitigate fears, talk about solutions, and foster hope and empathy. I think it is great that Banks knows how active, caring, and compassionate his mom is. That you can talk about the hard things and advocate for others. He won't get that all yet, but I'm sure that's the takeaway that he will have when he remembers it later. He will know his mom stood up for people. That's not at all a bad thing.
Katie Alosi
2022-10-19 02:11:51 +0000 UTCAhh, the balance! Great question. My son is 10. At that age I was reading true crime and talking to my dad every morning about white collar crime and world news from the Dallas Morning News. Pretty sure that is how I ended up double majoring in Journalism and Business. At one point I tried to add criminology to my degree plan but internships for Paramount and a boy were more critical! Personally my parents watched the news all the time in the 70s and 80s, so 60 minutes was a highlight for me as a kid. I do my best to not expose him to anything graphic, but he has this dream since he was itty-bitty about being in LE. Instead of telling him, "oh no you don't," we talk about what that means for him and community he serves. As for the working mom tug of guilt war, it's tough because I love my job. I'm ADHD, too. I have a mirror at my desk where I scribble affirmations. One says MOM. When I look into it, I'm reminded of the promise I made 10 years ago. It's more important I spend time with my son vs over-researching a project. I go down stairs and ask him to jump on trampoline or if Ican make him a snack. I've given up on perfect. (Sometimes I ask him to help me brainstorm on little projects too.) Best to you. Love your work and authenticity!
Cindy
2022-10-18 23:25:12 +0000 UTCDr. John probably already knows this but IMO kids take in what they need. Unless they are directly affected. If questions came up with my kids (I watched a lot of true crime) I usually persuaded them to tell me what they thought the answer might be so I could gage what they were really asking and how they were processing it. Funny story though my youngest son would watch ER with me all of the time. He fell hard (8 yes old) on his face and broke his 2 front teeth. There was blood from his nose and mouth so I took him to the bathroom to wash the blood and evaluate if we needed the ER or emergency dentist. He saw himself in the mirror and wailed OMG I have internal bleeding. Just to let you know you never really know how they are processing things.
Laura Redmon
2022-10-18 23:06:59 +0000 UTCYou’re top shelf Lauren! I’m thrilled for you. You and John have worked hard to educate and inform. I’m so happy Hidden is getting out there. And you thought you had arrived with Julie Rowe mentioning you in her rant. 😂 And if Banks has any concerns after watching your segment, I know a good psychologist. 🤷🏼♀️
ShaRee
2022-10-18 23:06:43 +0000 UTCBanks is just a precious little guy! Congrats, Lauren, and I am so glad you are bringing this case into the mainstream since this community has clearly been neglected, and the victims need justice. The police need to be held to account, and hopefully the media pressure will trigger a broader investigation. Where are the other victims and why aren't the police acknowledging them? I truly hope the young woman is feeling better and has the care and love she deserves to heal.
Jennifer Priebe
2022-10-18 23:04:41 +0000 UTCI don’t know. My kids had such a large age gap (10 years) and we have a tiny house so I never knew when she was seeing or hearing anything inappropriate. We all tried and just made sure she knew she could ask about anything that upset her, which she still does. Sounds like he was way more excited about seeing Mommy and didn’t really listen much (which is also a talent a lot of kids seem to have - LOL).
Emily Lou
2022-10-18 22:57:39 +0000 UTCHe’s so sweet ❤️.
Tamara Wakeman Sukohl
2022-10-18 22:37:12 +0000 UTC
