Consent 101 Panel Outline

Here's my outline/script that I used for my Consent 101 panel! Did this one with Butt Club for the first time at Sakura-con, excited to teach this more in the future. Apologies that the format got a little odd in the copy/paste.

1. Introductions. Go down the line and introduce ourselves. (5 min). 
   1. Real Quick Trigger Warning!
   2. Break out your notebooks kids, you’re gonna want notes!
2. Definitions.  
   1. Consent - permission for something to happen or agreement to do something.
      1. Enthusiastic Consent - 
      2. Coercion - persuading someone to do something by using force or threats.
      3. Consent is 
         1. given freely, and can be withdrawn at any time
      4. Consent is NOT
         1. When one is inebriated
   2. Harrassment - Continuing to engage in behavior after it is clear it is unwanted.
   3. Assault - a violent physical or verbal attack 
      1. Doing something without consent is harassment/abuse
      2. You need to have a direct, honest, freely-given consent to do something
      3. You ALWAYS HAVE the right to say “No, I don’t want to do that with you” 
3. Why it matters. 
   1. #MeToo (7 Mins)
      1. Started by Tanya Burke in 2006 - “ she was inspired to use the phrase after being unable to respond to a 13-year-old girl who confided to her that she had been sexually assaulted. Burke later wished she had simply told the girl, "me too".” [Wikipedia]
      2. Picked up by Alyssa Milano in 2017 [https://twitter.com/alyssa_milano/status/919659438700670976]
      3. Ask how many in the audience by show of hands (who are comfortable doing so) how many have experienced sexual harassment and/or assault
         1. Depressing Statistics! [https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence] 
            1. 1 out of every 6 women have been sexually assaulted
            2. 3% (1 out of 33) men have been sexually assaulted
            3. 21% of TGQN (transgender, genderqueer, nonconforming) college students have been sexually assaulted
      4. Go down the line and each share a brief story of consent being violated
   2. So let’s fix the problem!
      1. No easy solution, we have to relearn a lot of shitty behavior
         1. Small actions and word choice influence our habits and mindset
      2. Calling out yourself
      3. Calling out your friends
         1. Bystander effect
4. “But What About”... FAQs
   1. Nonverbal Consent - Reading body language, tips and tricks
   2. Mexican Dinner Consent [http://www.theferrett.com/ferrettworks/2016/10/you-dont-want-just-enthusiastic-consent-you-also-want-mexican-dinner-consent/] aka ‘Lukewarm consent’
      1. It’ll make my partner happy;
      2. It’s not like I’m actively against it, it just wasn’t my first choice of Things To Do This Evening;
      3. I’ll probably be more enthusiastic about this once we start.
5. Skits! Start with the bad example and then the good. 
6. How to ask for a photo
7. How to give compliments
8. How to ask for a hug/handshake/light physical contact etc.
9. How to invite a new friend to hang out, etc.
10. Q+A : 10 min
11. Quick wrap up - Who each of us are, where you can find us, and then a real quick photo before we shuffle off.