Book Announcement: 365 Days of Consent Culture Exercises for Kinksters

By Ember Solaris

I'm excited to announce my upcoming book, "365 Days of Consent Culture Exercises for Kinksters". Parts and sneak peeks of the book will start being posted here for subscribers.

A Yearlong Journey to Embodied, Ethical, and Everyday Consent—in and out of the scene

What if consent wasn't just something you negotiated before a scene—but something you lived, moment to moment, in your body, your relationships, and your community?

365 Days of Consent Culture Exercises for Kinksters is a practical, transformative guide for kink practitioners, educators, and seekers who want to build their consent practice from the inside out. With one short, intentional exercise each day, you'll strengthen the muscles of agency, boundary-setting, embodied awareness, and communication—both inside and beyond the dungeon. Because consent is a lifestyle, not a checkbox.

This book goes beyond basic definitions to help you develop your own practice. It helps empower you to:

• Reclaim your internal yes, no, and maybe through somatic awareness

• Identify how trauma, power, identity, and culture shape your capacity to consent

• Unlearn coercive scripts rooted in media, gender socialization, and performance

• Navigate real-world consent challenges with clarity and care

• Practice negotiation, communication, and self-consent as daily rituals

• Reflect deeply, act ethically, and co-create joyful, liberatory intimacy

Designed to be completed over twelve progressive months, the book includes:

• Daily reflections, journaling prompts, affirmations, practices, and micro-assignments

• Thematic monthly focuses on consent fundamentals, power dynamics, community care, and more

• Intersectional insights into race, gender, disability, neurodivergence, and relational trauma

• Cultural context unpacking how consent is distorted—and how we can reclaim it

Whether you're an experienced kinkster deepening your ethics or a newer explorer trying to find your voice, this book will meet you where you are and challenge you to grow. Step by step, you’ll rewrite your relationship to consent—until it becomes not just a tool, but a way of being.